Whenever I find myself sleeping in, missing appointments, not eating, journaling, etc. I find for myself, that this can be a sign of an impending relapse and/or that I am falling into negative thoughts. Having a somewhat structured routine helps us to stay focused, stay out the vicious cycle going on in our head, and have purpose throughout the day. All which are vital elements to ensuring balance in recovery from anything whether it be a substance, trauma, health, stress. It creates the outline for our day, which we create based on what is important to us as well as our daily needs for overall functioning. It could include work, spending time with family, self care, exercise, meals, errands, or whatever it is that is a focus of your life presently. It also helps us to achieve goals, and to set out a roadmap to be productive and successful in achieving those goals.
Lets say your goal is to work on your depression and you have children and a job, your schedule may look something like this:
6am-Wake up, 15 min stretch routine, gratitude journal and prayer
7am-Excercise 30 min
7:30-Shower and get ready/wake children
8:15-Breakfast and prepare for school
6-10pm-Time with children, read a self development book, journal, group, etc.
Everyone's schedule will look different, and if doing a full schedule is too overwhelming, start with just a solid morning routine that allows you the time you need with just YOU. Ground yourself. Set your tone for the day. Set a goal. Practice mindfulness. Play music. This is where healing starts, in the quietness of your surroundings, alone with your true self. Appreciate this time, and ensure its a part of your day. Overcoming addiction and trauma can wreak havoc on your body, mind, and spirituality. By taking care of ourselves through loving ourselves enough to schedule the things that are important to our recovery leads way to finding the peace you may be seeking.
If your a person that is hard on themselves, I suggest starting small. If you make a full schedule, and its challenging to follow, it could have a counteractive effect=negative self talk. Learn to push yourself a little more each day, and acknowledge how doing this makes you feel.
Most of all, practice loving yourself through taking small steps towards healing. I have a close family member who told me when I was struggling with my depression: "Make your bed every morning when you get up. That way, you have accomplished something today." Celebrate small successes in creating routine and then build onto it!